All posts tagged "Ask the Expert"

  • Too Damn Busy: Why you are and how to stop.

    Here’s a statement about my life – and probably yours. The day I started writing this article, I got stuck in our elevator for 30 minutes – and enjoyed it! Somewhere in a day that was jam-packed...

    • Posted May 12, 2017
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  • New beginnings part 2: Barriers to a brighter future

    Making the move to a new and better stage of your life and career without getting overwhelmed by the inevitable challenges and uncertainty the process it involves, is a challenge. Last month I wrote about the importance...

    • Posted April 12, 2017
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  • The ADHD controversy

    A controversial comment made by leading Harvard Child Psychologist Jerome Kagan in Spiegel Online became the subject of heavy discussions between academia and pharmaceuticals. Kagan claims ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) is an invented health condition rather...

    • Posted April 7, 2017
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  • How to choose a helmet for kids

    Every year, you hear about  bike-related head injuries and deaths involving kids.  Otasuke, a Japanese support group claims that more than 60% of traffic accidents involving children are  high school students while some 24% are elementary graders. ...

    • Posted March 15, 2017
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  • New Beginnings Part 1: KEEP YOUR EYE ON THE PRIZE

    For most foreigners living in Japan, the time to leave eventually comes. Whether leaving out of desire or necessity, this transition can be fraught with stress. The good news is that it doesn’t have to be. I’ll...

    • Posted February 15, 2017
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  • Our 13-year old wants to have a Facebook account. Should we allow her to do so?

    Everyone these days is speaking the same online language and interacting with others through social media platforms like Facebook. You must be at least 13 years old to open a Facebook account. Meguro Counseling Clinic director Dr....

    • Posted February 15, 2017
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  • Have You Found Your Calling?

    Vocation/ Calling: Vocation and calling are often used interchangeably because they have similar definitions. Vocation is defined as a strong desire to spend your life doing a certain kind of work and calling as a strong inner...

    • Posted January 12, 2017
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  • Q. Should you be worried if sedation on your baby is required for MRI to diagnose a Venusian dimple?

              Dr. Joe Kurosu of Primary Care Tokyo gives his medical opinion on the matter. In general, what are referred to as “Venusian dimples”,  located on the sides of the lower back, are...

    • Posted December 22, 2016
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  • Create more meaning, fulfillment and impact in your work

    While holidays are a time most people look forward to because they can forget about work, being away from work provides a great opportunity to gain some perspective on it and develop strategies to make it more...

    • Posted December 22, 2016
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  • The Rise of the Portfolio Career

    Do you have a job but dream of building a career? You might be out of luck. Why? The traditional definition of what constitutes a career is becoming obsolete. Consider the following definitions of career: 1) a...

    • Posted November 14, 2016
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  • Managing your pain

    HEAL YOURSELF What I am going to share and teach today is not mainstream information. That’s why it’s not more well known. But you are a select few that will be way ahead of the curve and...

    • Posted November 5, 2016
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  • The meaning of work: Profession

    Profession has two definitions that give insight into the mindset it carries with it; 1) a type of job that requires special education, training or skill; and 2) the act of declaring or publicly claiming a belief,...

    • Posted November 1, 2016
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  • The meaning of work: OCCUPATION

    How the words you use when thinking and talking about work influence your performance and fulfillment. Occupation: Defined as an activity that a person spends time doing, people who see work as an occupation tend to neither...

    • Posted October 26, 2016
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  • Should you have your boy circumcised?

    What do insanity, syphilis, and epilepsy have in common? They are all caused by masturbation, or so it was believed in Britain and the US in the late 19th century.  And the cure?  Circumcision.  When this notion...

    • Posted October 10, 2016
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  • Is your child an Olympic hopeful?

    “HOW IS A PARENT TO KNOW THAT HER CHLD’S GOAL IS REALISTIC? I can’t imagine that any parent would discourage their young child from following his dreams, no matter how lofty. However, as any parent of an...

    • Posted October 3, 2016
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  • Question: My child has ADD, what special learning needs will he have?

    Dr. Berger  : This will depend on the type and severity of ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder) that your child has. There are mainly three types of ADD, mostly inattentive, mostly hyperactive, and mixed inattentive and hyperactive (the...

    • Posted October 2, 2016
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  • Saying goodbye to Summer

    There’s typically a feeling of impending change in the air this time of year. For students, autumn means saying goodbye to the long awaited summer months often devoted to de stressing, catching up on sleep and socializing....

    • Posted October 1, 2016
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  • Question: Is Play Preference Influenced by Gender? Japanese experts give advice.

      ❝ No. I think a child is influenced by the adults in his immediate environment. There was a study made previously where 3-year old kids were asked to draw any subject they like. The boys drew...

    • Posted August 17, 2016
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  • 10 questions to help figure out whether you want to stay committed for life

    Brenda (not her real name of course) wasn’t the first client to ask me for advice about how to figure out whether she loved her spouse enough to spend the rest of her life with him. For...

    • Posted June 16, 2016
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  • Saving your business without selling your soul

    A few years back I spent most of August on a self-styled writing retreat at a gorgeous house overlooking the ocean on Vancouver Island. I couldn’t have asked for a more beautiful or inspirational place to write....

    • Posted June 16, 2016
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  • The modern way of birth

    Kony 2012.  It might be a golf tournament.  In fact, as you probably know, it’s a film about atrocities perpetrated by a man of that name, last seen in Uganda that became an overnight viral sensation with...

    • Posted May 1, 2016
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  • Is Japan without Humanities and Social Sciences good or bad?

    A decree issued by Japan’s Ministry of Education ordering Japan’s public universities to stop offering humanities and law, and social sciences, to align itself with the real demands of the job market, elicits mixed response among parents,...

    • Posted January 16, 2016
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  • The 8th Mindset of Workplace Transformation: Motivation vs. Inspiration

    The eighth (and final!) mindset of workplace transformation addresses where people derive the energy and impetus for action from. At this time of year this mindset is relevant even if you are not a leader as it...

    • Posted January 10, 2016
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  • Home remedy: What to do when baby is in pain

    Question What home remedies can be used for babies and young children having diarrhoea? How long is diarrhoea likely to continue and what symptoms should we be looking for that need medical attention? Answer   The most...

    • Posted December 28, 2015
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  • Transforming Work Part 7: TIRED vs GOOD TIRED

    How do you maximize performance? Great leaders and the most successful and valued employees understand that high performance cannot be achieved or sustained without nurturing fulfillment. The seventh mindset of workplace transformation centers on shifting your focus...

    • Posted December 10, 2015
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  • Transforming work Part 6: Transforming the Tyranny of ‘To Do’

    Ever had a day, a week, or even a year where you’re troubled by the nagging sense that you haven’t been truly productive, despite being incredibly busy? You are not alone. Whether you work for yourself or...

    • Posted November 20, 2015
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  • Transforming Work Part 5 – Slowing Down to Speed Up

    Are you the kind of leader who is always putting pressure on your team (and yourself) to get things done faster? Research shows that this management methodology is counterproductive. Contrary to the deadline “rush” that is commonly...

    • Posted September 11, 2015
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  • Transforming Work Part 4: Purpose Over Profit

    (This is the 4th article in a series                                                                                                                                                        on the mindsets of  workplace transformation.                                                                                                                         Click to go to Part 1, Part 2, Part 3)  The fourth mindset shift is one that leaders and employees at all levels desire, but have trouble sustaining – the shift from a...

    • Posted August 14, 2015
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  • Learning Problems in Disguise

    By Dr. Marielle Gorissen-Van Eenige As all parents and teachers know, children enter school with a wide range of abilities. Although teachers try to find ways to meet the learning styles of each student, some children will...

    • Posted August 7, 2015
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  • Transforming Work Part 3: From control to creativity

    The last two months have featured two key mindset shifts that forward thinking leaders and employees must make to have a positive impact on transforming their workplace. The first was to shift from a surviving work style...

    • Posted July 10, 2015
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  • Transforming Work part 2 FROM STATUS TO SERVICE

    An ever-growing volume of research is demonstrating that if businesses are to thrive and profit for the long term, work must become a source of aliveness, not just livelihood, for each and every employee. To achieve this,...

    • Posted June 8, 2015
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  • Transforming work and workplaces

    For more than 25 years now,  I have worked with individuals and organizations to transform their work and their workplaces. In many ways the situation has improved. Technology has made it possible for people to work from...

    • Posted May 11, 2015
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  • Get real for big change

    As a working mom, I am constantly bombarded with information about what I should be doing to be a good mother, wife and business person. I should always feed my family healthy, organic, creative meals, I should...

    • Posted April 9, 2015
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  • ”Even healthy marriages are vulnerable to infidelity,”

    warns noted psychologist, parenting expert, author and relationship counselor Sara Dimerman at a seminar she gave last week entitled ‘Married Sex- How to fan the fizzling flame!’ She penned a new book dedicated to couples who want...

    • Posted March 9, 2015
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  • A new perspective on planning

    I have long believed that taking the time to clarify your vision, set goals, and map out strategies to get from where you are to where you want to be is an essential ingredient for success, but...

    • Posted February 16, 2015
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  • If you do X, then Y will be the result.

    Mastering Soulful Success To succeed in the adult world, we learn how to push, plan, set goals, strategize, and work hard. These concrete skills teach us that there is a direct link between cause and effect –...

    • Posted December 17, 2014
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  • Lessons from a florist : 4 Ikebana principles to guide a happy life

    I studied ikebana – Japanese flower arranging – for some time while I was in Japan. (At one point, I was even on a student visa and was meant to be studying 20 hours per week!) Unfortunately,...

    • Posted November 10, 2014
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  • Ebola scare

    There is no effective cure for Ebola virus.  With a high fatality rate, everyone is concerned. The Ebola outbreak reported to be spreading at an alarming rate has raised warning flags all over the world. The massive...

    • Posted November 5, 2014
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  • Culture Matters

    The games we play   s mother to a 6-year old, I spend a lot of time playing games with my child and his friends. Recently, I realized that the issues that get in the way of...

    • Posted October 9, 2014
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  • Honne and Tatemae

    The concepts of tatemae and honne are deeply embedded in the Japanese psyche. Many foreigners living in Japan get frustrated by how difficult, if not impossible, it is to get behind the tatemae (the “face” that a...

    • Posted September 10, 2014
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  • Q I have had psychotherapy for many years with different therapists, why don’t I get better?

    There may be a number of reasons why psychotherapy may not seem to help someone, each person’s situation being unique. Assuming there is actually some mental health issue at hand, we need to break up the explanation...

    • Posted August 9, 2014
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  • The 5 Secrets of Enduring Companies

    apan has the privilege of claiming more than 20,000 companies that are over 100 years old (and a few that are more than 1000 years old!), so it is no surprise that Japan has a specific word...

    • Posted August 9, 2014
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  • The Top 5 Barriers to Finding Work You Love

    With 25 years of experience coaching people to create careers that align with their passions, I have encountered dozens of ways that people block themselves and the process. After a recent skype coaching session with one of...

    • Posted July 12, 2014
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  • Work Less Nap More

    orkaholism is a tough nut to crack. Why? Unlike other areas like alcohol and drugs where people overdoing it is frowned upon, overwork is worn as a badge of honor in many countries. In North America, successful...

    • Posted June 9, 2014
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  • Q: How can good taste in clothes be taught to children?

      A Both style and taste are a personal choice. When buying clothes together, parents tend to impose their own style on children which is completely normal when the kids are too young. But as they grow...

    • Posted May 8, 2014
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  • Crafting your spirit at work: The way of the Shokunin

    iro Ono is a famous Tokyo sushi chef who, at 89, has no intentions of retiring unless he is incapable of showing up to work. His work brings so much meaning, purpose and joy to his life...

    • Posted May 7, 2014
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  • Mummy wars – the science behind it

    ’ve always found it interesting that there are so many different parenting ‘styles’. What I hadn’t anticipated before joining the ranks of parenthood myself several years ago was that many parents are not only advocates for their...

    • Posted May 1, 2014
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  • 9 Facts About Toddlers

    If you’re a mom or a dad of a pre-schooler, you’ve probably found that raising one is full of both positive and not so great experiences. In order to truly enjoy being a parent, the enjoyable and...

    • Posted March 10, 2014
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  • I talk, you talk

    When a child does not talk, adults often resort to questions to keep the conversation going.  However, questions often have the reverse effect, stopping conversation and leaving the child confused, annoyed and frustrated. In addition, questions tend...

    • Posted March 10, 2014
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  • When would you use psychological testing on children…

    Question “We have heard psychological testing is time consuming and costly.When would you use psychological testing on children and what are its pros and cons?”   Answer  This depends on what the purpose of the testing is,...

    • Posted February 16, 2014
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